The Good Side!

I woke up early today, excited over all I get to do before the clock strikes midnight.
I have responsibilities to fulfil today.I am important. My job is to choose what kind of day
I am going to have. Today I can complain because the weather is rainy or..


Be happy. just because things are not good, doesn’t mean you can’t see the good side of things.

I can be thank ful that the grass is

getting watered for free.

Today I can mourn my lack of friends or..

I can excitedly embark upon a quest to

discover new relationships.

Today  I can grumble about my health or..

I can rejoice that I am alive.

Today I can feel sad that I don’t have more money


I can be glad that my finances encourage me to

plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from


Today I can lament over all that my parents didn’t

give me when I was growing up or..

I can celebrate that they allowed me to be born.

Today  I can cry because roses have thorns or..

I can celebrate that thorns have roses.

Today I can whine because I have to go work or..

I can shout for joy because I have a job to do.

Today I can complain because I have to go to school


I can eagerly open mind and fill it with new rich

titbits of knowledge.

Today  I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do

housework or..

I can feel honoured because the lord has provided

shelter for my mind, body, and soul.

Today strecthes ahead of me, waiting to be shaped.

And here I am, the sculptor

who gets to do the shaping.

What  today will be like is up to me.

I get to choose what kind

of day I will have!

Have a great day … unless you have other plans.

Eat with gusto and enthusiasm.

Stop when you have enough.

Be royal.

Never pretend to be something you’re not.

If what you want lies buried,

dig until you find it.

When someone is having a bad day

be silent, sit close by and nuzzle them gently.
That’s the good side!


How I live.

From Google.

I look down into people’s eye as if everyday is looking at me

I ask a question but no one answers it,

I  make jokes but no one laughs,

I try to make friends but the most trusted ones are too busy,

I want to play but people run away from me,

When I work hard, everyone is happy,

When I make a mistake, everyone is concerned,

When I ask for corrections, no one is ready to help me,

When I make a decision no one takes it,

When I am happy, everyone is unhappy,

When I am selfish, everyone tells me to serve

When I am in unhappy, everyone tells me to be happy,

When I am efficient, no one appreciates it,

When I am in efficient, I am humiliated,

When I plan for happiness, I am offended,

When I feel I should be alone, I get companions,

When I plan to stay awake, I am bored,

There I am confused but I make them a part of my life and

use them to achieve my goals.

Stop with the excuses!

It’s always somebody else’s fault. Of course it is. The unhappiness, debt and the general lack of progress I am currently experiencing is someone else’s fault. You see my parents set me up to fail. And then there are the no-good friends who hang around me. How can one expect to prosper with such a crowd? As for the woman I married, hmmn, she is singlehandedly bringing me to ruin.

Ever heard about the boss from hell? Well, I’m working for him and he’s determined to make sure I don’t get promoted. The there’s the government and all its corrupt leaders that are bleeding this country and me with it, dry. As for my children, they are gifted, bright and well-mannered. It’s the other children from the neighbourhood who are corrupting them. Introducing them to drugs, partying and insolent behaviour. Junior would never have been suspended from school if it wasn’t for that dastardly Jimmy. As for their teachers?

Is this an all too familiar soundtrack to your life? To mine? Truth be told, blaming other people for the way our life is turning out is something we are all guilty of from time to time. However, it is not a productive exercise because we have little to no control over how other people act.



At some point we have to grow up, look in the mirror, take responsibility and realise, “It’s not them, it’s me.” Sure you may have been dealt a crazy deck of cards but it’s up to you to change the narrative; to take charge of how you play so that you get your best possible result in the circumstances.

Your parents may not have given you the education you wanted but thousands of people enrolled in evening classes are changing that particular narrative everyday. Everyday people get out of debt, change jobs, improve their parenting skills and find happiness. People like you and me change their lives for the better everyday. In the same vein, people like you and me stay in their self-made ruts everyday.

Taking personal responsibility is not to say that people won’t do us wrong, that other people do not deserve any blame for the bad they have done to us. It is to say that we get to choose our response to their terrible actions. Unless we are under 18, we are not entirely powerless. Will we allow their wrong doing to keep us down, or will we rise, slowly and surely above it?

However, it is probably just as bad to admit our wrongdoing and then stick in a cycle of woefully blaming ourselves. Everything is our fault, from our looks to our lack of intelligence to our poor social skills. “There’s something wrong with me. That’s why no-one loves me,” a young woman may believe, and that misguided self-blame becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

When we take a healthier, more balanced approach, we can admit that we occasionally mess up and hopefully find ways to learn from our mistakes.

If you don’t like the way your life is, change it. But for that to happen you have to get rid of other people blame.

Social networking addicition

Facebook, LinkedIn, Myspace, Twitter, Digg, StumbleUpon, Friendster, Tumblr, Xanga. the list goes on and on. And if you are any sort of tech savvy, there is good chance you are a member of multiple social networks. Even I have accounts with at least 4 of these. While there is a lot to be gained by using these services, there is a lot to be lost.

In case you hadn’t heard, Facebook users share not only a social network of over 500 million, but also significantly lower grade point averages (GPAs) than their non-member classmates (according to Time Magazine). And apparently Jennifer Aniston ended her relationship with John Mayer because he was addicted to Twitter (as opposed to drugs like other musicians). This begs the question, how many of us are addicted to social networks, and what can we do about it?

You may think, “I’m not addicted, I can quit anytime!” Well if you have more Facebook friends than real friends, something must be done. If you spend more time working on your LinkedIn profile than doing actual work, it’s time for an intervention. Regardless of your excuse, this is not ok.

Here are a few tips that can help you monitor your social network use, and ensure that you are being productive instead of wasting time.

  1. Track Your Time Online – The simplest way to ensure you aren’t wasting time in any one place is to monitor your time. Use a stopwatch and set a limit. When time is up, log out regardless of what’s left. There is always tomorrow.
  2. Remember the Telephone – I know, it’s so primitive. But a call to a friend works just as well as a Facebook message, and its real human interaction, something we are losing touch with.
  3. Go Outside – get away from your portal to the network. Get some sunshine, chances are you need it.
  4. Limit your Memberships – There is no need for memberships to 10 different networks. In fact, there is no need for even 2 memberships of sites which do the same thing. Choose Facebook or Myspace, but not Digg, or StumbleUpon. This will probably cut your memberships in half, and hopefully cut the time spent on them down also.
  5. Use Your Networks Productively – When I first used Twitter I followed thousands of followers. Strangely though, people rarely responded to my tweets, and it was like I was invisible. I decided I’d only use twitter if I could be productive with it, so I unfollowed thousands of users (now below 1000), and use Twitter only to share and interact with people with similar interests as mine. Now my Twitter is a tool, not a time warp.
  6. Prioritize – Use these tools only when your work has been done, or during down time. Don’t spend time updating your profile or changing your pic when there is work to be done. This will not only save you time and increase productivity, but will build self-discipline as well.
  7. Stop Procrastinating – Many times we get on Facebook or twitter when we have real work that we just don’t want to do. Stop that! Get the work done. Once you finish you’ll have the time in the world to spend making friends on Facebook.
  8. Remove the Cell Phone Apps – You don’t really need Facebook or Twitter on your phone. Nothing on there can be that important. Save your social networking for when you are behind the desk and limit the distractions throughout the day.
  9. Spend More Time with Close Friends and Family – You aren’t the only one who suffers when you spend countless hours on Myspace. Your family and friends don’t see you, because you are too busy learning how to customize you backgrounds and take crazy pictures from all different angles for your profile pic. Cut out the cancer and get back to friends and family.

It’s time to take back your free time. Remember that these sites are built to make money, not increase your productivity. Nobody is looking out for you expect you (and me…). Follow my tips and live life in the real world instead of the e-world. Trust me, it’s more fun this way.

Golf club story!

Several men are in a locker room of a golf club. A mobile phone on a bench rings and a man engages the hands- free speaker function and begins to talk as he puts on his golf shoes. Everyone else in the room stops to listen.

MAN: “Hello?”

WOMAN: “Honey, it’s me. Are you at the Club?

“MAN: “Yes”.

WOMAN: ‘I’m at the shops now and found this beautiful leather coat. It’s only 500. Is it okay if I buy it?”

MAN: Sure, go ahead if you like it that much.

“WOMAN: “Oh thanks so very much. I also stopped by the Mercedes garage this morning and saw the new models. There was one I really, like.

“MAN: How much?”

WOMAN: “80.000”

MAN: “OK, but for that price I want it with all the optional extras.

“WOMAN: “Great! Oh, and one more thing. The house we wanted last year is back on the market. There are asking 1,500,000.”

MAN: Well then, go ahead and make them and offer, no more than 1,250,000.”

WOMAN: “OK. I’ll see you later! I love you!”

MAN: “Bye, I love you, too. “The man hangs up. The other men in the locker room are looking at him in absolute astonishment. Then he smiles and asks, “Anyone know whose mobile this is?



Love is a risk.

Waking up every morning to the warm breath of your partner is the most wonderful feeling some people will confess. It is as if all your worries and troubles are wiped away that instant. But then again, love is not always magical as sometimes the insecurities, vulnerability and other issues can’t be escaped. Just the other day, as I was lying on my sofa and reflecting on life in the quiet confines of my living room, I started to think about this thing called love that has become complex today. No longer do lovers settle for leaving their promiscuous partners, but revenge by taking their lives.

I had just been reading the papers about the various murders of couples over this thing called love! The thought of someone you would give your all putting an end to your life freaks me out completely. It was one thing to imagine that the worst that could happen to you if you hurt your partner was leaving you, punishing you with silent treatment, or beating you up. Now its killing you.

I realized how vulnerable we are to our partners and generally to the people we meet and begin getting to know. Just think about it, you meet someone whose background you don’t have any clue about and accept to go on a date. Now by doing this, you have already put yourself in a compromising situation and your only hope is that the person had noble intentions.

Then after a couple of dates, you decide that you like them and want to date them, keeping in mind that its about a month or two which time is very short to know the real person. And even when you argue that spending time with them reveals their true identity, never can you know the depth of their fury. What if that hot chick you can’t get enough of is capable of murder? Well, this never crosses our minds as we dance in excitement after one of the many dates. The most burdening though is that not until something that shakes you happens do you start to wonder about these things, that is if you are not already six feet in your grave.

Sounds gruesome I know, but you can’t blame me for thinking about these things. Every day you discover something new about your partner, do you ever wonder what else you don’t know about them? And this goes for both men and women. A colleague at work one time discovered that her girlfriend’s ex left her not because she didn’t have money as she claimed, but because she was battering him. The last time they spoke she had sent him to a hospital bed with a broken arm. Scary I know. Now the conflict in this is that there may be a probability that your partner changed from her old bad habits when she met you, but again you can never be certain because circumstances may revive our most terrible habits. To love is indeed to make one’s self vulnerable.

That evening as my mind went over all the murders sparked off by passion over the last year, I cuddled my cushion and said a silent prayer.

Jesus Gave Us The Greatest Example.

JESUS DID NOT resurrect the same way Lazarus resurrected. After walking out of the tomb, Lazarus picked up where he left off. Once again he was living with Martha and Mary. Once again he was busy with the affairs of everyday life. And once again he had to die. In a letter to the Romans, St Paul wrote: “We know that Christ has been raised from the dead and will never die again. Death has no power over him anymore.” With the glory that was rightfully his as Son of God, why didn’t Jesus stay here on earth? If we had our way, we would have insisted that the Risen Lord remains insisted of ascending into heaven. We would have insisted that the King of Kings establish his reign on earth once and for all soon after the resurrection. Instead, he ascended and left us here to beg God: “Thy kingdom com!” The hard part is that most Christians have never seen Jesus. We must wait for the Parousia. The last words of the Bible urge us to pray: “Amen, come Lord Jesus!”


The first Christians must have repeated this phrase thousands of times. St Paul uses it at the end of First Corinthians. The entire letter is written in Greek, but St Paul says: “Maranatha!” He uses the word as the very first disciples used it – not in Greek but in Amaric, the mother tongue of Jesus and the Twelve Apostles. Because of the peculiarities of Amaric, “maranatha” has a double meaning. It means: “The Lord is coming!” It also means: lord, come!”

Do not think of it as if our Lord left us behind because he was tired of us. Do not think of it as if Jesus would rather enjoy himself in heaven than continue to put up with the evil ways of sinners. Just before he ascended into heaven, he told the Apostles: “know that I am with you always until the end of time.” We cannot see Christ. But he wants us to believe that he is with us. Indeed, more than merely being with us, he wants us to believe that he lives in us. He has ascended. But he is now closer than ever to those who believe. Look for Christ within. As St Paul urged the Christians in Colossae: “Seek the things that are above, because you have died and now your life is hidden with Christ in God.” Does this mean that we live in the clouds, neglecting our duties towards family, colleagues and friends?

No! Since our goal is to like Jesus, we imitate the Master who said: “I did not come to be served but to serve.” Serve others the way you would serve Christ himself. Serve others looking for Christ in them.