You become what you do. So your habits are actually a big issue — especially the bad ones! Like maybe you’re tidy. Or messy. Punctual. Or always late. Courteous. Or rude. Calm. Or angry.
Whatever your habits are, they gradually become your character. And some of them will make you very unhappy.
Like focusing on how everyone else is successful, and not noticing that you could be too, if only you decided to take control. So accept yourself the way you are, and focus on your own development.
Maybe you’re always waiting for the perfect moment. There’s no such thing. Moments are what you make them. And, you’ll never be “ready” for any sort of personal growth. Whether it’s marriage, changing careers, or starting a business.
Change, improvement and development always make you feel unprepared. If it’s easy, comfortable, familiar and safe, it’s not growth. It’s who you already are. So you can never ever be ready. All you can do is go for it with everything you’ve got.
Perhaps you’re working at a job you hate. That’s just drudgery. Spending your entire life wishing you were someone else. You must find work that inspires and defines you. That you’re passionate about.
Or maybe you’re constantly choosing comfort, thrills, socialising, fast food and wasting time over growing your mind, building your health, your career or relationships.
Then you’ll never achieve your potential. Instead, set yourself challenging but measurable targets — like instead of saying you want to waste less time on the Internet, decide you’ll only surf between 6 p.m and 7 p.m.
Or instead of saying you should drink less, decide you’ll only have two drinks a night. Instead of saying you want to save more, set up a standing order to transfer some of your salary into a savings account each month. Instead of saying you’ll get married “next year”, decide you’ll purposefully chat to two new possibilities every week.
This is because vague promises never become results. While targets are empowering — and help you avoid just-this-once exceptions.
Stop holding on to someone who hurts you over and over again. Accept the fact that they don’t really care about you, and move on.
Choose your friends carefully: wise and optimistic people, who encourage you to achieve your goals and never lead you astray.
Stop holding grudges, dwelling on the past, or worrying about the future. Instead, immerse yourself in whatever you’re doing.
Be punctual and efficient — instead of postponing things, turning up late and using your time badly. Establishing deadlines – and meeting them – makes you feel confident and in control.
Giving up whenever the going gets tough also quickly becomes a habit. Running away just dooms you to endless beginnings.
Above all, recognise that wealth and status do not make you happy. Instead live a simple life, devoted to hard work, personal development, building your relationships, helping others and creating a better society. Now those are habits that will make you truly happy.